We’re finally taking a trip of a lifetime!

Paris Here We Come

It’s been decades in the making and two years in the planning. I received a very light box wrapped in Christmas paper on December 25, 2019. It was a paper voucher from my husband for a trip to Paris. I had been dreaming of this trip since college days at Bowling Green State University when I last took a French class. And as we know, life continues, marriage, xhildren, career, family obligations etcetera and here we are heading into retirement and I still had not seen the real Eiffle Tower. But March 2020 closed to world to most everyone and the pandemic put this trip on a two year hold.

This year, our son and daughter in law were heading to Geneva, Switzerland where K is completing a fellowship at the University of Geneva. We are vaccinated. COVID is going to be with us throughout the world indefinitely. People are traveling again, an we, like many, are vaccinated and we felt the pent-up desire to make this dream trip happen.

We began discussing the trip in March and pulled the trigger in May to purchase our airline tickets. Mark is a great researcher so he starting looking at alternatives to flying out of Cleveland OH at $1600 a pop. He found $800 flights out of Toronto, Canada. And even considering the fuel costs, and parking fees, it was still a better deal, if you don’t mind driving five hours to Toronto. And apparently we lucked out because Pearson airport in Toronto is good at losing luggage! But we made it to France and back with our luggage. BONUS: People in Toronto were super friendly.

Some must do’s when intenrational traveling . Make sure you know the current COVID protocols for testing and vaccinations and be prepared with your documentation. Canada also has ArriveCan, which is an app that lets you in and out of Canada. You can complete it ahead of time and they have your information stored when you are in the airport. I think it save dus much time. Take a look at this video of the documents Mark put together that included Arrive-Can, our parking garage reservation, our museum passes and timed entry for the museums we knew we were visiting, hotel and AirBNB reservation info and paris metro maps. (Love his planning abilities too)! 

https://www.instagram.com/reel/Cfrp1qUjYOY/?igshid=MDJmNzVkMjY=

Naked Eye Astronomy 101

We were in Arizona and there are so many mountains and I couldn’t wait for the first beautiful sunset. We arrived at a park near Flagstaff about 10 minutes before sunset. Plenty of time right? Wrong. With the trees on the left and mountains on the right, you could see the sun setting and reflecting on the mountains to the right. And crazy me. I was running to try to get beyond the trees to actually observe the sun on the horizon but it kept moving. BTW, I learned the word alpenglow, which means a rosy glow from the sun on the mountains. It was beautiful and we caught the sunset to our left. Then we meandered back to the beginning of the park and my brother-in-law thinks it’s funny to pretend to put his head in the rear of a buffalo. (Actually we were all laughing hysterically). While we were discussing our unintelligent hyjinks, this intelligent-looking man approached and asked if we were here for the naked eye astronomy lecture. We looked at each other stupidly. Then he said he wasn’t going to take attendance (wink wink). We followed behind and eventually realized we are now part of the Northern Arizona University lecture. Lucky for us. I later researched and found out he was in charge of the astronomy facilities at the university. Anyway, we were able to see, with his guidance, Venus, Jupiter, Saturn, the big and little dippers, Orion, and the Milky Way, blocked partially by the clouds. The stars were brighter than any I have ever seen. And we learned about Dark Sky cities.

Did you know there are dark sky communities that restrict the amount and types of light that are permitted within the city’s boundary? Controlling that light diminished the light dome so you are better able to see the stars and the constellations in our galaxy. But I also learned that light pollution can affect the ecosystem too.

Nocturnal animals sleep during the day and are active at night. Light pollution radically alters their nighttime environment by turning night into day.

Glare from artificial lights can also impact wetland habitats that are home to amphibians such as frogs and toads, whose nighttime croaking is part of the breeding ritual. Artificial lights disrupt this nocturnal activity, interfering with reproduction and reducing populations. Sea turtles live in the ocean but hatch at night on the beach. Hatchlings find the sea by detecting the bright horizon over the ocean. Artificial lights draw them away from the ocean. In Florida alone, millions of hatchlings die this way every year.

Migrating Birds

Birds that migrate or hunt at night navigate by moonlight and starlight. Artificial light can cause them to wander off course and toward the dangerous nighttime landscapes of cities. Every year millions of birds die colliding with needlessly illuminated buildings and towers. Migratory birds depend on cues from properly timed seasonal schedules. Artificial lights can cause them to migrate too early or too late and miss ideal climate conditions for nesting, foraging and other behaviors.

Many insects are drawn to light, but artificial lights can create a fatal attraction. Declining insect populations negatively impact all species that rely on insects for food or pollination. Some predators exploit this attraction to their advantage, affecting food webs in unanticipated ways.

We can’t do everything but we can do something. Amber lights are best and blue lights are the worst so you can change your lighting and make sure it points down whenever possible. It not only helps the birds, but will make your neighbors happy too. And you can save energy as well.

Random fact: Our guide used a laser pointer to clearly show the planets and constellations and reminded us to never point at a plane. The light can disperse through the entire cockpit. who knew?

Back to (knitting) Basics

As a past owner of a knitting store, I found that part of what brings women and men together is the sharing of the accomplishments and final projects as well as figuring out patterns and correcting mistakes.

One of the things I love about knitting, especially now as my days are a bit more leisurely, is knowing that I am constructing something and not just vegging in front of the TV.

Glitzy Knitted Purse

I enjoy quick projects so I can finish them quickly. There is satisfaction in finishing a project while binge watching The Crown.

This beautiful knitted clutch is lined in a gold and black cloth with handmade pink and copper glass buttons. It is a one-of-a-kind item. The dimensions are 10 inches wide by 6 inches tall. It is lined with black and gold matching fabric so your contents won’t fall out. Check out my Etsy store https://www.etsy.com/listing/747294993/glitzy-black-and-gold-clutch?ref=shop_home_feat_1&frs=1

Living our lives for others

I wish people could think a little more outwardly. We have become a people of instant gratification, wearing blinders to others so that we can move forward in our own world. Yes, there are some who give generously but we are seeing a nation that is blatantly showing a disregard for others.

In Ohio, our governor signed an order requiring masks in public. The public was outraged that their rights were being usurped so the governor pulled that back and said it was highly recommended to wear them. The masks are not known to help oneself from getting the virus but they are helpful in stopping the outward spewing of your own germs, to help others. It is a considerate thing to do.

But here’s the thing. They are not necessarily comfortable. They are warm. They mess up my hair. They feel uncormfortable around my ears after a while. I can’t wear lipstick. It will smear my makeup. I have heard these comments as reasons for not wearing them. What??!! There are now 70,000 people who have died from the virus and it will mess up my lipstick? That is just crazy talk. Granted they are stuffy and uncomfortable and we are not a society that has been accustomed to covering our faces with masks so it is a difficult thing. But I for one, think I can be a little inconvenienced so maybe someone else can live!!! That is not alot to ask and I would hope someone would do that for me.

And I have been wearing mine in public. In fact, I made a few cute ones with dog bones and musical notes. Hey, if we should wear them, we might as well make it fun. You can find so many on Etsy, free ones at you rplace of business and retail stores that will be openings, also indicate they will be available for free. So hey, Let’s give it a try. There’s so much we don’t know about this pandemic and the transmission of the covid 19 that every little step we take to try to control its transmission should be taken. So many sacrifices are being made, I feel that is the least of them. So go ahead, mask up my friends and do it with a smile on your face, even if we cannot see it!

Shameless plug for my masks– etsy.com/Softnsassy

Earth Day- Pandemic Style

This pandemic Earth Day has brought some good news to the world and I am proud to say I did my part.

News reports are highlighting that the change in our collective behaviour to stay home, has made our air cleaner, many cities having seen the fog lifted to enjoy beautiful vistas not visible for years.

In my own little way, let me recount my effort.

Number 1. I did not wash my hair. What used to be a daily ritual, now has become a reconditoning of my hair though some might call it a healthy grease bomb. I never felt I could go a day without a shampoo because my hair is oily, fine and flat. But in these days of isolating all day long. I can give it a try. Savings– water, shampoo, conditioner. Oh, and I have joined the mulitudes of women who will be revealing their true hair color momentarily. Hmm, Clairol– should I or shouldn’t I?

Number 2. Ooh, next I am saving gasoline. I am getting about three weeks to the gallon by not going anywhere, — savings — gasoline, carbon emissions, wear and tear on the car and no oil consumption.

Number 3. Since become a couch potato, I am saving on our heating bills too. First, when I stay in bed til noon, no need to turn the heat up so early in the morning or throughout the day. Ans because I just change from my warm. comfy pajamas into my warm, comfy yoga pants and s weatshirt and pile a few cozy comforters on top of me to keep me warm so there is no need to adjust the thermostat.

Number 4. Since we are in daylight savings time and the days are getting longer, I also am using less electricity by not turning on as many lights. (ok, that would have happened anyway, but it still counts in my book). And it also makes it easier to fall asleep for my afternoon nap.

Number 5. But when I am not napping or sleeping or changing from night jammies to day jammies, I am planning for the future. I purchased some seeds for basil, lettuce, oregano, beans, and cucumbers. My hope is that once they get going,they will not just become food for the ransom animals that frequent our yard. After all, they can forage in the forest, while I have never learned the Bear Grills lifestyle.

Corona Conundrum

Today, like many days, I am on a roller coaster with my brain waves going on a wild ride. There is talk about opening up business Yay! But wait! That could mean a spike in coronavirus cases. Noooo! What to think, what to do.

Some days I enjoy the intimacy of being at home, hanging out, going for long walks, cleaning, writing, and baking (why is it that so many of us are making banana bread). And some days I feel guilty for napping and not working as much as I would like to. I am in direct sales and I am learning to navigate the world of sales via social media so it has provided a new learning curve. I have also thought of going to work in a grocery store just to be with other people but I am in that age group that is considered higher risk so I am hesitant to work in one of the essential business.

My heart aches for the doctors and nurses who work long and grueling hours, and have taken on additional roles as they become the surrogate family for those who are isolated in hospitals.

My brain has a split personality. I am listening to our governor talk about businesses have to open. I get that. Our economoy is at the edge of a devestating cliff and the astronomical numbers of Covid 19 relief payments is almost beyond comprehension and a burden for future generations. But how can you even measure the economy against the lives that have been lost or could be lost because of the aggressive way this virus has permeated our society.

But the other half of my brain is embracing the idea that we need to have a plan.

To the naysayers who say it is too soon, and are able to continue social distancing, please do so. We can continue to flatten the curve by being cautious and abide by the recommendations made by our health, medical and public officials. For those who are aching to get back to work because they are struggling or have been unable to pay their monthly bills, the talks and plans being discussed to restart the economy can begin to ease fears and angst and allow some businesses to open their doors. Let us give our leaders a chance to make careful and calculated plans for our futures.

If you see me while I am in the grocery store with rumpled hair and my homemade mask, acting a bit distracted, give me the benefit of the doubt. I am not rude or cranky, I am just trying to keep this roller coaster brain from veering off its tracks!

Don’t Just Do something, Sit There

Last week I talked about thing that you can do, Today I am reflecting on ways to soothe your soul. As the world and U.S. news continues to be a source of stress as we all abide by the stay at home order, it might just be time to unplug for a bit and reflect. It is important to take care of yourself may mean just sitting there. It is ok to watch some comedies on TV. It is ok to laugh and actually very good for your mental attitude. So when you see those memes, it is ok to laugh.

Take a walk. I have seen some outstanding and amazing chalk drawings on driveways. That brings a smile to my face. The sun has been out in my city and it truly is greta to get some Vitamin C and fesh air. Grab a lawn chair and sit in your ard and watch the clouds go by.

Do some yoga. There’s lots of free classes on line and if you can support your local yoga or dance studio, please do so.

Bake. I have seen lots of women boredom baking from crafted cupcakes to banana bread. It is comfort food we are seeking. Did you know that in Ohio yeast in Ohio is almost as hard to find as toilet paper? Many who have never had time to bake bread or those who may have never tried it before, are trying this craft. My mom’s recipe will be getting a look too. I usually make it at Easter time and this year will be no exception. I just may be eating more of the carbs myself as I cannot share it with my extended family.

Pray. Meditate. Breathe. It is good for your soul. It is good for your health. Get enough sleep. Are you home? Take a nap. Forgive yourself. I know I have felt as though I should be doing more. It is perfectly acceptable to do what is right for you. It is ok to make a mistake. It is ok to not feel ok sometimes. You are still important. You are loved.

Don’t Just Sit There, Do Something

Whew. Even though I am working less, there are plenty of oppportunities to do more. And I have an abundance of things to do, to keep you busy, take your mind off the pandemic and improve your physical and emotional well being.

How have you been taking care of yourself? Experts in the psychology field are recommending that you spend time doing some things beside being glued to your TV and there are so many options, it can be overwhelming.

Pick one or two and really enjoy and immerse yourself. I started taking yoga classes via Zoom. It is not one on one but it is a community and it really feels good to stretch and strengthen my body even if I look like a newborn foal bumbling its way to standing.

And when I get a little forlorn about the local news, I go to the Cleveland Zoo site (https://www.clevelandmetroparks.com/zoo)and learn about what happens at the zoo, including the science of poop samples! I also have become a student of Yale University . Can you even believe it? I am auditing a class called the Science of Well Being (dubbed the Happiness Class). It was one of the most popular classes at Yale and now online, because it shares information about how to be grateful and to improve your happiness quotient by finding your strengths , using them and improving areas of your life that can fine tune your empathy, social connections, and spirituality. Stay tuned for a joyful update! In the process I am still learning about myself and thoughfully thinking about how I have changed since I was a much younger person.

If you are a helper person, there are things you can do. Make a phone call to somewone you know who may feel isolated. No Agenda. Just say hi and ask if they need anything. When you go to the grocery store, check in with someone to see if they need anything. The food banks are in dire need right now. Check out where you can make financial donations or food dropoff. A deacon at my church started a ministry some time ago, for those who literally have nothing. The volunteer staff is sheltering at home, still they have a need and the need is growing. Did you start cleaning projects and do you have usable household items or men’s, women and children’s clothing? I’m In Ministry will be collecting these items or you will be able to drop them off at some future date. Hang on to them so you can donate them when they open.

This is my beginning list, and it still allows for me to do what I can to move my business forward. Feel feel to share your ideas.

Happy Hour – – #ApartTogether

When there is a national crisis, the first thing many of us do is reach out to our families. We want to hold them tight. After 911 I rushed to see that my kids were ok and to hold them and protect them. But today we are being told to shelter in place and for me, that means staying away from our kids and grandkids so we don’t get them sick or they don’t spread any illness to us. I have a son, daughter-in-law and 2 month old grandson living in New York City, the current epicenter of the coronovirus. And yes, I am worried. But they assure me they are safely practicing social distancing. Now that 30-year-old is calling on a regular basis to check in.

In New York one friend is a surgical doctor who is at a hospital and was still doing elective surgeries last week. Now that New York City is at the forefront of the coronovirus pandemic, they have stopped that practice but many things have changed. One of their friends, who was induced and delivered last week, was just ahead of the new mandate that moms in labor are not currently permitted to have a support person with them. First, there is the risk of transferring illness to the mom, baby and hospital staff, and secondly to preserve the PPEs personal protective equipment. It may seem for many of us a revisit to the 1950s. My mom delivered all three of us, while dad paced in the waiting room, maybe smoking a cigarette or puffing on a cigar. What a different time.

But we are learning a new way of life and are finding creative ways to reach out and touch someone. On Saturday, we set up a Zoom Happy Hour. At the appointed time we cracked open the beverage of choice and sat on a comfy chair in front of our computers to catch up. For my oldest daughter who had spent her first week “homeschooling” her children, it was a pause in the chaos of managing three children who understand the inconvenience of having their schedule disrupted and finding themselves at arms length for an entire week of sibling rivalry spats. For the youngest, the two month old, who slept peacefully, his life remained the same. But for me, it was a chance to see my babies with their babies. We laughed a little bit, we got a word in edgewise between the conversation-jumping and interrupting of the pre-teens and tried to figure out how to hug without hugging. But as a mom, I want my kids to lean on one another in trying times and hopefully, this was a first step in keeping them close to me and close to one another as we navigate through this trying time.

I’ll drink to that!

Our First Grocery excursion

So now we are staying home and I feel very fortunate to have Mark by my side. We met late in life and have only been married less than two years. And we each have had full lives so we will see how this work at home thing is going to go.

So far so good. Our governor has just announced that schools will be closed the following Monday and gatherings of more than 200 people should be curtailed. We thought a trip to the grocery store was in order so we could stock up on a few groceries and some canned goods, in the event we fell ill or couldn’t cook. The parking lot looked like the weekend before a major holiday and most of the grocery carts were already in use throughout the store. Carts were full, but not overflowing and it was interesting what we found. Most people looked like they were shopping for a big week but they weren’t hoarding canned goods or or boxed pasta. However, the toilet paper and paper towel sheleves were empty. I am still trying to figure that one out. It would make sense for carts to be full of cough suppressant and Tylenol, but toilet paper? The other thing we saw was adult beverages. And lost of them. That makes total sense. It was St. Patty’s Day weekend after all, and we were discouraged from going to bars and restaurants. Oh yes, and the random cart with water and bags of cat litter.

We also found that people were friendly. We mistakenly got in the self-checkout line with people who normally don’t do self-checkout. But instead of throwing darting looks, we joked with our fellow shoppers and peered into other carts and waited, patiently, for our turn. It reminded me of post 911 days when people on the sidewalk looked you in the eye with a comforting glance or a empathetic smile. It is happening again. We are our brother’s keeper. 1 Corinthians 13:1-13